Pride and stubbornness are guaranteed recipes for creating conflict, while an openness to hear other opinions is the hallmark of true understanding. There is a deep divide between acting recklessly out of ego and moving forward carefully through shared consultation. The primary approach among commentators is that arrogance is the direct cause of severe disputes. A stubborn person who refuses to listen to advisors and acts with cruelty will inevitably bring about conflict and personal failure [אבן עזרא, אמרי דעת, עמנואל הרומי]. Such behavior involves a severe lack of consideration, sheer arrogance, and a willingness to trample over others [אבן עזרא, מצודת דוד, ביאור שטיינזלץ]. These disputes are rarely minor disagreements; they are severe quarrels that can easily escalate into physical violence and outright war [מלבי״ם, מצודת ציון, רש״י]. This arrogant behavior can even reach the level of a public rebellion against truth and the laws of wisdom, much like Korah's historic dispute against God [מלבי״ם].
Beyond personal behavior, this dynamic also applies to social influences. A person who chooses to associate with wicked individuals will eventually adopt their negative traits and learn to stir up strife [רלב״ג]. Another perspective applies these concepts to the realm of charity. When a wealthy individual gives to the poor out of pride and anger, the charitable act completely loses its value. Instead of bringing peace, it becomes a source of bitter conflict [אלשיך].
In sharp contrast to those who generate conflict, wisdom rests with people who are measured in their actions. These individuals carefully weigh their steps and consult with friends before making a move [מצודת דוד, ביאור שטיינזלץ, אמרי דעת]. A truly wise person understands that the very path of wisdom requires seeking advice from others to refine and perfect one's actions [רלב״ג]. In fact, good advisors can actively guide a person and steer them away from acting cruelly toward others [אבן עזרא].
This willingness to seek counsel serves as the ultimate antidote to conflict. When disagreements naturally arise, people who are willing to sit together, consult, and examine the situation through the lens of wisdom will successfully reach the right conclusion. They avoid the violence and destruction that plague those who act with arrogance [מלבי״ם]. Furthermore, patience and consultation serve as a guarantee for personal stability. A person who avoids rushing and seeks advice before every action will maintain their standing and avoid falling into poverty, unlike reckless individuals who can lose their entire fortune in a single moment [אלשיך].