בראשית, פרק ל״א, פסוק י״ז

The time arrives for Jacob to leave Laban and journey back to his homeland. This departure is not simply a physical relocation. It is a spiritual step supported by the merit of the Commandment to honor his father and the importance of returning to the Land of Israel [אלשיך]. Jacob plans his departure with great wisdom to ensure Laban remains unaware. While typical fugitives usually smuggle their property out first and flee last, Jacob does the exact opposite. He makes it his first priority to secretly rescue his family [מלבי״ם]. Taking personal responsibility, Jacob physically lifts and places his family members onto the animals himself [רד״ק].

When seating his family, Jacob places his sons before his wives. On a practical level, the sons are older, strong enough to sit by themselves, and accustomed to riding, whereas the women are afraid of the camels [העמק דבר, חזקוני]. Beyond logistics, the primary approach among commentators views this choice as a reflection of Jacob's pure character, especially when contrasted with his brother. Esau prioritized his wives over his sons because he was driven by physical desire, making women his primary focus. For Jacob, the ultimate goal is the establishment of the tribes of Israel. Because his sons represent the true purpose of building his family, they are most precious to him, and he ensures their care above all else.

This priority contrasts with other historical events. For instance, when Moses traveled, his wife was seated on the donkey before his sons. Commentators explain that Moses' sons were toddlers unable to ride alone, making it necessary to seat the mother first so she could hold them, whereas Jacob's sons are already independent [לבוש האורה, חזקוני]. Another contrast arises from Jacob's own behavior later in his journey. When preparing to meet Esau, Jacob places his wives before his sons. The difference lies in the direction of the threat. When fleeing from Laban, the danger approaches from behind. Jacob hurries to place his sons at the front of the camp, reasoning that if Laban catches up, he will encounter his daughters first and be moved by mercy [צאינה וראינה]. Conversely, when facing Esau, the threat comes from the front, prompting Jacob to keep his sons as far back as possible to protect them [דברי דוד]. Ultimately, during a sudden escape, a person immediately grabs what is most precious to them. However, during an organized march or an anticipated meeting, the strategies for protection and etiquette naturally shift [פרדס יוסף].